you’re so pretty. you’re an intelligent and caring person, and you have a lot that you should be proud of. can you please drink a glass of fucking water
Trap Master can only be flipped during your turn or by the effect of another card. Since no card has been activated to trigger such an effect, Trap Master cannot be activated in response to Trap Stun.
THE DOG GOES.
The effect of Prediction Princess Tarotrei can flip trap monster face up on the opponents turn.
THE DOG STAYS
Once we send that Prediction Princess Tarotrei to the graveyard, our trap sealing will stick around.
The dog goes.
Ritual Sealing does not negate, only destroy. Prediction Princess Tarotrei is destroyed, but its effect is still carried out.
i saw someone say nobody needs to know what a .txt file is anymore. what the fuck is the world coming to
unironically i think we need to bring back computer labs because APPARENTLY some people WERENT taught basic computer literacy and internet safety in school
things about computers/the internet i think kids should be formally taught in schools because theyre important to know and the amount of soon to be grown adults i know who know NOTHING about any of these is quite frankly almost all of them (and resources to learn if you dont know these things, because its never to late to get better with computers)
some very basics on how to use “"developer tools”“ on your computer (because i cant think of a better way to refer to them) like task manager and command prompt (and their mac equivalents, terminal and activity monitor ofc)
internet privacy and your digital footprint!! seriously i dont know why we stopped teaching people that they shouldnt be putting their entire real identity online in a world where your online actions can ruin you irl
as an additional note: things i think everyone should know on computers and the internet but schools may bit hesitant to teach about for whatever moral/legal standards schools pretend to operate on
vpns and adblockers! (btw for most of these where you can pay for things im purposefully not recommending any specific software but seriously just use ublock origin for an adblocker)
ok one last addition! if you want to take it one level higher, i think learning the very basics of at least one programming language is good for people. it makes computers less scary and it makes you feel very cool, and a lot of people get discouraged about it because it seems overly complicated and hard to learn outside a formal classroom setting, so heres some resources for learning the very basics of python (because i consider it the easiest language to learn and knowing one language will make it easier to learn others)
okay so if you need more veggies/fruit, protein or fibre (bc most people do NOT eat enough) in your diet but you struggle to do so, hear me out:
look up recipes (especially snack recipes) that are child/toddler/baby-friendly
i can guarantee there is a woman with a cooking blog out there who has found away to pack a bunch of vegetables into a surprisingly delicious little snack for her kids. this process has never failed me when i feel like i am not eating enough fruits and veggies. my entire flat is eating spinach muffins at the moment, which doesn’t sounding particularly appealing to most people and yet somehow. they’re delicious.
putting some of my saved recipes under a read more for people to use as inspiration or a starting point ❤️
UPDATE: I happened to have all the ingredients for the spinach muffins on this list and made them today, and folks, they’re GOOD. They have a very nice mild flavor and don’t actually taste like spinach at all
girl help I’m getting they/them’d by well-meaning people who don’t know what a tomboy is
This feeling is strange and complicated. On the one hand it’s legit quite cool that nonbinary pronouns are becoming more widespread! On the other, I’ve spent my whole life pursuing interests and hobbies and ideals that weren’t seen as particularly feminine, and when I was younger this was a major source of bullying and stress alongside some generalized misogyny taking the form of “you can’t do or be anything you think is cool because you are innately inferior and to do otherwise means violating your nature,” and it took me a while to conclude that this was just straight horseshit top to bottom and I could do whatever I wanted and present myself however I wanted without in any way being Not A Girl, and now it’s like the exact same concept has flipped sides and is coming from a point of theoretical validation but still calculates out to “that’s not very ladylike of you, you must be something else”. anyway she/her thanks gang
I think it’s like. the understanding that the gender binary is a small part of a much wider space of identities is separate from the understanding that a lot of that gender binary is a false dichotomy that artificially walls off universal human experiences behind specific pronouns and while the first concept is gaining wider understanding the second is lagging a little, which means “I am a girl and I like doing boy things” reads as “oh I’ve heard about this, you must be one of the Others who don’t do the binary” rather than “the concept of ‘boy things’ is stupid from the jump”
just to be 100% clear
what this post is NOT talking about: using they/them pronouns for someone you don’t know, aren’t sure of, hasn’t had a chance to introduce themselves, etc.
what this post IS talking about: my highly personal experience seeing some people “correcting” my commenters that were using she/her pronouns for me, because, despite me exclusively using she/her pronouns and saying so whenever asked, through no action of mine they had gotten the idea that I was using “they/them”.
girl help I put a nuanced personal experience on the reading comprehension website
reminder that “allies welcome” was once secret code for “those not out yet can still participate without putting themselves at risk”, and for those who aren’t out yet to comfortably exist in these spaces you have to let allies exist in those spaces too.
this is also important for queer people who don’t know anyone else there. let them bring their friend, even if the friend is cishet. many would rather not go at all, rather than go somewhere alone.
It is always better to let respectful cishets into our spaces than to try and police who is queer enough to be allowed.
When I was in high school (2004 - 2008, not that long ago), we had exactly one out person. One.
We also didn’t have a Gay Straight Alliance chapter yet. Virtually every support group you could find, even in navy blue states, was a local chapter of the GSA. You were much more likely to find that acronym than LGBTQ+.
Our school decided we wanted one, but we wanted to be inclusive, because we knew there were other letters. We called our group “Spectrum”, because it would cover everyone, including allies.
It took three meetings in front of the school’s board of directors to get permission for the club to exist. Again, this was a private school, in a mid-Atlantic state that has been navy blue and “progressive” for decades (even at that point).
Other than the one (1) kid who was out? Every single other member said we were Allies.
Nearly 20 years later, almost every single one of us is out as some flavor of queer.
A lot of us knew we were huge supporters of queer rights, we just didn’t quite know all the reasons why yet. Asexuality wasn’t discussed the way it is now, neither was any type of gender nonconformity. Hell, bisexuality was barely acknowledged, and even then it was mostly only given a nod as “girls who turn guys on by kissing girls” (biphobia was strong, and unfortunately still is).
Making sure allies have a space at our table ensures that people have the space to explore their own identity, to question if one of our labels might work for them too.
It also allows people who may have some baked-in prejudices realize that those prejudices are wrong. That we’re not evil and hateful, that we are actually pretty nice and friendly.
One time, some friends and I were at a pretty famous local gay bar, and this guy walked in looking like he was ripped out of the pages of Redneck Magazine. He looked super uncomfortable, but he was polite to the hostess and she sat him alone, near us. A lot of people were tense, and watching him out of the corner of our eyes, because we all knew what happened at Pulse.
But one of my friends is the person who knows absolutely everyone and goes out of their way to make new friends. He’s also a cis straight guy. He leans over, compliments the guy’s Carhartt jacket, and asks if he’s ever been to the place before.
The guy, who is still kind of tense, says his name is Johnny and no, he’s never been to no queer bar before, but his sister just came out to the family. Their parents were awful about it, and while he “didn’t understand it”, he didn’t think his sister should be disowned and hated the thought of seeing her cry, so he wanted to try and understand.
I remembered the story that’s made the rounds here- about the guy named Earl who went to a drag show and everyone made him feel welcome because they knew he needed to have a good time to prove we queer folks were safe.
So I invited Johnny to sit with us. “It’s more fun than sitting alone. Here, have some of my fries, I’m probably not going to finish them anyway.”
He sat at our table, and when he found out that my friend was also a cis straight guy, he visibly relaxed. So did a lot of other patrons, once they realized he wasn’t there to cause violence.
Over the next few hours, he ate great food, had a couple beers, clapped and smiled at the drag shows, and asked a LOT of questions. At first, he was using language we might call “un-PC” (the kind that would get you cancelled on this webbed site). But he realized we were using different words, and asked. He asked why the old words were wrong, why the newer ones were right, and how not to be offensive.
The staff found out what was going on, and eventually a card got passed around the whole joint and everyone wrote supportive messages for Johnny’s sister Lila. This big tough man felt safe enough to cry a little in front of us queer strangers, because we instantly accepted his sister as one of our own, as family, even though we’d never met her.
I’d later found out from the staff that Johnny had returned, more than once. A couple times with Lila herself, and a couple times with his friends… who were gruff and suspicious at first, but won over by the end of the night.
We need to be a safe space for allies. For people who may not use all the Correct And Accepted Special Words but genuinely want to understand and accept us. As someone who is both asexual and nonbinary, I felt way safer with Johnny (despite him using outdated terminology for a while) than I do with a lot of people on THIS QUEER ASS WEBSITE.
Allies are sometimes members of the family that don’t even know they’re in the closet yet, because they don’t know the closer includes people like them.
Allies are sometimes people who don’t know the right words or behaviors, but still want to support someone they love.
Scooting over and making a safe, welcoming space for allies will always be important. And it will help us get closer to that world of acceptance we want to see.
Obviously Red Pill and related movements were mostly full of shit but I do think it’s useful to break down exactly where they go off the rails. For instance, the idea of a sexual marketplace. The idea that large numbers of repeated consensual interactions converge to something like a market is imo not unreasonable. But then they start applying ideas that are either only true in idealized, perfectly competitive markets, or are not true of any market at all. Thinking for just two seconds should reveal that the actual sexual market place is full of assymetric information, high transaction costs, and non-fungible products. But the most egregious oversight of this line of thinking is the implicit assumption that there is low market concentration and no market power, something that is immediately recognizable as false when we realize that a solid 42% of US domestic sucking and fucking was provided by your mom.
To be clear, it’s inaccurate to describe your mom as holding a monopoly position in the sexual marketplace. What she’s achieved is not dominance through exclusionary practices, but rather an exceptionally competitive cost structure and historically low barriers to entry.
My favorite thing about learning that the creators of blue eye samurai are a mixed race couple whose mixed race daughter inspired them to create the show is that it means they, like many parents, were like “what should we do if people are mean to her because she’s mixed race” and the answer was “well we probably can’t just let her kill them all. but wouldn’t that be nice”
one of the most enlightening realizations ive had was finding out that non-24 hour circadian rhythm people were a pretty large group and most of us have oddly similar cycles of usually around 28hr internal “days” and this masquerades as “insomnia” but if allowed to sleep and wake naturally we will just advance forward through time an extra 2-4 hours a day at a relatively stable pace. we can’t go to school or jobs or even run errands on normal schedules without massive pharmacological and behavioral intervention. most of the people who have been diagnosed or figured it out themselves will report horrific, life-ruining disruption in their professional lives and terrible health from accrued lack of sleep. this disorder is most common in vision-impaired people which seems to suggest it’s related to light cues. anyway just thinking about this as extremely loud yard work woke me up at 8am for the second day in a row
lot of people reblogging this identifying themselves in it so i wanted to give you a link to a more detailed desription of Non-24-Hour Sleep-Wake Disorder, and mention theres a similar disorder called Delayed Sleep Phase disorder where you are on a regular 24 hour cycle but you naturally get sleepy around 3-4am every day and wake up around 10am-12pm (roughly). as far as i can tell, despite the widespread nature of both these disorders, its basically impossible to get diagnosed bvecause sleep medicine is probably the single most useless specialty and if you dont have sleep apnea they dont want to hear about it.
this got 14k because Tumblr is absolutely a self-selected population of people with the worst sleep disorders you can possibly imagine
Circadian disorders such as N24SWD and DSPD aren’t just correlated with the visually-impaired. They’re also associated with melatonin-related mutations seen within the autism spectrum.
Reading fiona from shrek as an allegory for being a trans guy is great like society desperately wants you to remain a pretty little princess until it becomes so internalised that you yourself believe that transitioning will turn you into this violent scary monster and once you do finally transition and actually become happy and content in who you are there’ll still be people in your life who react like you’ve murdered their daughter and turned her into an ugly, disgusting ogre and will stop at nothing to convince you to detransition again “for your own good” and if you say no they’ll take it upon themselves to try to fix you anyway because they can’t comprehend the idea of offering you a shred of bodily autonomy.
This does also mean tht Shrek is a trans man btw. To me.
this post is a day old and it’s already reached twitter like okay wow this one REALLY resonated huh 😭
